We’ve all had a conversation with someone that generally ends with the phrase, “shouldn’t you try and stick to one goal? You’re never going to succeed if you keep bouncing around.” Then you leave the conversation scratching your head because the one thing you wanted to get across the entire conversation was that your entire “goal” really was to become well versed in many things and learn new things all the time.
Many people often set a goal, they reach the goal and they don’t know what is next. They are left to wonder what they missed when they were keeping their head down in their grind to get to their first goal. This isn’t a bad thing. Please don’t mistake the dedication it took to get there as a downfall. But it leaves me to wonder, what would happen if you added small goals around it?
For instance, if you have been with me for a while, you know that I started with a bodybuilding aspiration, and then I realized that I was not comfortable trading one terrible habit with food, into another obsessive sport. When I finally realized that it wasn’t healthy for me, I found powerlifting. Powerlifting also allows me the flexibility to continue with my passion but put my other passions to work. Had I listened to the person that said the above phrase, I can’t fathom where I would be mentally, physically and emotionally, and honestly, I don’t want to. That was a dark time. Did I look like a quitter, sure. Did I sound like a quitter to me, absolutely. Once I realized, however, that t was the best choice for me, it all made sense on why and how I fell in love with powerlifting.
Society currently thrives on quitters. Society waits in the back alley with the billy club, waiting for people to give up and start over, yet again. But the problem is that nobody really truly quits anything, it’s just finding new passions. It’s discovering your Oprah ah-ha moment maybe when you are just at the edge of finishing a goal you thought was where you were heading and realizing that you are much more passionate about something more meaningful. The probably with society thinking that you are “quitting” something and trading it in for another something doesn’t recognize that it is because you are growing. Let me be the first, in case you haven’t heard it already, you are allowed to grow, it is perfectly acceptable, and quite frankly welcomed.
That my friends, is the beauty of sometimes picking the road less traveled or finding a winding path you haven’t discovered before. It allows you to grow and discover more about you. Please know that wherever you are in your life or what direction you are heading, you need to know two things:
Don’t limit yourself to the unlimited potentials and possibilities that this short life has to offer. Don’t sit on the side lines and wish you would have “done this” but you “didn’t have time”. Make time. Take the time to do what you want to do and please, for the sake of all humanity; don’t feel selfish, especially if you are a mother. Life is too short to life your life under a bridge filled with fear and angst and worry.
Below is an interesting article that I thought I would pass along. Be fierce, my friends.
How to Set Goals for the Life You Actually Want