Everyone has some sort balance that they try to keep in all areas of their lives. For most of us, especially me, I have three definitive sections of my life that I can separate all the little things that are juggled on a daily basis into. For instance, my categories are work, family, and personal. Having a full-time career lends its own work flow that is established daily. Family life also balances on its own plate followed by my personal goals and needs that tend to be waddled in between the cracks.
Finding the balance in all of them can be challenging and difficult. Below are some suggestions that might intrigue those (including myself sometimes) who need to rearrange one or all categories in your life.
-Meeting demands on time. In order the meet the demands of your company, building a system that works and is flexible can be the key component to what is missing in productivity and ultimately, achievement of the company needs.
-Use time management tools. Suggestions are to sit and build the staple items daily that need produced and leave room for unexpected things that could pop up.
-Keep an open mind. This is a must. In today’s society, things are always changing, especially in business. With leaving your mind open and ready for unexpected change, success will be at the hold of those things that come your way.
-Set boundaries. Whether it is with your boss, co-workers, or clients. Boundaries need to be set on the limitations of the work load that you can carry. There are graceful ways to help those people achieve their need from you and your need from them. Working together to find a common balance will help everyone succeed. Suggestions for this include a “Yes, but” approach. If you are overwhelmed and are asked for even bigger tasks where you know your priority is with those tasks you already possess, identifying that “yes” you can do the new tasks that are needed “but” these are the items that will have to wait. To which would that person like the priority to be and are they willing to wait for the original needs to be met.
-NEVER go to bed angry (my, was this a hard one to type). Some days your patience will get tried and some days you will still want to be angry BUT I assure you, when you lay your head down on your pillow and your family is breathing in every other room of the house, life is so much better than what you were angry for. Breathe and let go.
-Give personal space. Even if you have little children, let them adapt to being in quiet by themselves (safety first, of course) and give everyone in your family the change to meditate with their own thoughts and be by themselves in their own skin for a bit.
-Praise often. My husband started going back to college recently and praising him in his efforts is something I make to be my personal mission. Sure, he doesn’t need his ego stroked, but he does need to know that any fear he may have if he is making the right decision for his family is ok, I am right there telling him it is. Same with children. Praising them for all the new things they learn only makes them want to do more and be more.
-Tell them when you feel wronged. It is more than fine for you to stand up for yourself, even with your family. It is more than fine to walk away from those that have hurt you and maybe don't understand because they refuse to. Even if they are family. Never feel guilty for standing up for yourself.
-Quiet time. Find a closet that you can fit in and re-home the stack of whatever is lingering on the floor of said closet and find solace there. If you can’t do it there, find somewhere to have quiet time. You deserve it and your mind will thank you.
-Exercise. Walking, running, biking, swimming, weight lifting or playing racquetball are all good things to condition your mind, spirit and body.
-Make friends. Making friends when being an adult is hard. Who cares if it is the barista you see every morning on your way to work, make him/her your friend and find out something new about them while waiting for them to make your favorite brew.
-Give thanks. You are an amazing human. Be thankful for that.
-Mental health. Take care of that. Your brain is the only thing you have that you can control what goes in and what goes out. Don’t put it to waste.
Now, you don’t have to go ALL in on ALL of them but chipping away little by little will make you and everyone you contact around you a better place. You are the only you that you have. You are only here once. Make the most of it.
If you have any others that you would like to share that you have found to be a good fit in any category, comment below!