Soon after the New Year began my family sat down, each in their normal seating arrangement with a blank piece of paper in front of them. On one side it was labeled “Things I need to do” and the other “Things I want to do”. There wasn’t a specific in number in mind; we just began to write, categorizing our thoughts in our brains onto paper. This exercise was meant to do a few things. 1. Really have them (Andrew and Ella) map out some goals. Ella hasn’t had any experience generating these thoughts on to paper and I could probably say Andrew hasn’t much either.
Without going in to great detail (because Andrew likes to keep his life private), Andrew made some pretty substantial goals for himself. The second line item was: be a better person. This goal was listed under “Thing I NEED to do”. This speaks so many volumes about who he is as a husband, step-father, student, and person. This goal was not arrogant or just another line item on the paper, he truly thinks that there are areas for improvement. How profound is it that we (all of us) go through life and see nothing wrong with where we are, until something shakes us to the core where we maybe realize that we need to make a substantial change, and it needs to be fast? How many times do we often participate in relationships and “blame” the other person or continue to validate the activities or hurtful acts that we commit against our partner? It truly sets Andrew to a new tone when he releases that kind of statement to me. It makes me fall in love with him even more. Other things on the “want” list were 4.0 for a semester, Michigan basketball game, and do more things as a family. Again, could this man be any more selfless? Love.
Ella also made me very proud. When constructing her list, she made statements like “what do you mean?” and “can you help me?” to which I replied, “Just think and write”. And that she did. Her “need” section moved me to tears.
Things on her want list also made me realize that she still needs me and yet again, moved me to tears.
From the goals I have set, and both of their goals, we then worked it into what sort of the same things did we write down and what other goals can we accomplish together. From there we have the list below:
I’m definitely excited to see where this takes my family and how we grow as individuals and as a family. I adore my little family and I could not have asked for a better husband and daughter to share my journey with. ONWARD 2016!!!