As some of you may know from last year, Daniella had some goals set out. The only one she missed was not being able to land that three pointer yet in basketball. Her time will come!
This year, I gave her no ideas, no inspiration, just a marker and paper and let her write. Below are her goals.
Can I just mention how much healthier this is than giving her ideas and make them her own, or just labeling something as a goal for her? She had a lot of fun creating this list and it was healthy for her to take a look at her own life, as an individual, and find the things that SHE wanted to work on because, after all, it is her life. Sure, I will probably get a lot of slack from some saying that she is a child, and how could she possibly think on her own. And to those I say, because she has her own brain, her own personality, in her own body. Now, my job as a mother is to redirect her when she is putting herself or another person in harm’s way. Still, then, I need to hear her out. Often times, we silent out children because “we are the parent” and “they are the child”, which in some cases, in our house, this still rings to be true. See #15. Back Sassing (aka back talking) has been a struggle for her. Back talking is when she interjects the conversation and doesn’t let the person whom she is speaking to finish their sentence. She must try to figure out what it means to have a conversation to listen AND hear what the other person has to say before she reacts. Having her recognize that she has to work on being a little nicer to her peers and increase her grades, was a monumental turning point on this list. Making herself aware that she has an issue, was her first step.
Next, helping her put actions behind these goals was a lot of fun. We worked through each one and she provided to me what action steps she was going to attach to each item. With encouragement and guidance, I think 2017 and today back at school was a fresh start considering she found out she is ahead on most of her work for class!
This is always a neat project for me to explore with her and it always opens me to a little bit of what goes through her mind and what she thinks of herself. Also, it lets me know that she listens to me and values what I am saying to her when I advise her throughout her life.